info@steps2peace.com
4 Cutten Drive,  Saugerties, New York, 12477     
845 246 5935845 246 5935
Read a recent Interview with Roberta about the growing movement of  Nonviolent Communication in the Mideast and locally.
Schedule of Programs with Roberta Wall (Open to the public)

October 3    4 pm
Radical Forgiveness
Yom Kippur preparation
Isabella Freedman Retreat Center, Falls Village,Ct
Roberta will lead an experiential workshop based in Nonviolent communication on forgiveness beyond right and wrong.
Click here for information about the Yom Kippur retreat
Read more about Radical Forgiveness


October 6,13,20 & 27 (Mondays)  6:30- 9 pm   
Woodstock, NY
Nonviolent Communication Training for Mental Health Professionals (including clergy)
Self connection, Nourishment and Growth

Interview with Marshall Rosenberg on Psycholtherapy
Info: info@steps2peace.com

October 22 
Chestnut Ridge, New York
Roberta will facilitate a community conversation based in Nonviolent Communication concerning the
East Ramapo School district.
Info:info@steps2peace.com
 
November 13-22, 2014
Beit Jala, Palestine
The Center for Nonviolent Communication presents a 9 day residential International Intensive Training, led by a team of 5 certified NVC trainers.
Register now!

Details in English
Details in Hebrew
Details in Arabic

February 19-March 1, 2015
Beit Jala, Palestine or EcoME
Teaching and Sharing Nonviolent Communication;
A 9 day residential experience led by international team of NVC trainers,
for Israelis, Palestinians and Internationals
Inquiries: MideastNVC@gmail.com

March 12-18, 2015
Amman, Jordan
Schedule in formation
Inquiries:
MideastNVC@gmail.com


In  formation:

Women's Leadership Institute
Bringing women in the Mideast together with women around the world
Inquiries: MideastNVC@gmail.com

Building Connection and Understanding between religious, secular and other Communities in Israel
Winter 2014-2015

Nonviolent Communication Family Camp near Haifa, Israel,  for Israeli-Jewish, Palestinian-Israeli, Palestinian and international families
(children, teens, parents)


These, and many other projects in the Mideast are under consideration. We need your support- help us raise money, commit to participating, offer your services in any way that will meet your need for contribution and joy! Our commitment remains to include applicants from Gaza, the West Bank and Israel, many of whom  are applying to join our trainings and are requesting scholarships.


For more Information: info@steps2peace.com

Contact Roberta and Steps2peace  to schedule private trainings, mediations and conversations for your school, agency, community, business, organization or family.
Some samples of what is offered:

Healing Community:
Training and practice in Authentic Conversations and Facilitated Dialogues
Information about this work

Plum Village, France
Exploring the practices of  Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness in the context of a 21 day international Buddhist retreat led by Vietnamese Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. 
Read more here


info@steps2peace.com


When we step into the consciousness of needs, we no longer hear,  or speak from,  anger, blame, shame, disconnection.
“It is not nonviolence if we merely love those that love us. It is nonviolence only when we love those that hate us.” -- Gandhi
More Empathic/Compassionate/ Nonviolent Communication events:

Roberta offers private consultations, mediation, communication coaching and dispute resolution.
Inquiries at info@steps2peace.com.

Nonviolent Communication practice group starting in Woodstock area- email to inquire

We also will help you find an empathy buddy! Send  an email if you'd like this support from me.


NVC at work in Israel and Palestine
Roberta is available for talks and workshops  in your community!
Read more on my blog:
http://robertaindia.wordpress.com/

From Roberta, after an NVC training in Bethlehem:

Toward the end of the 2 1/2 hour session,  I was feeling uneasy, maybe hopeless, wondering if this will really make a contribution to peace. Can this training really contribute to the Palestinian women in the room, to Israelis, religious and secular,  all of whom are deeply longing for freedom, choice, stability, a community where their children, families and cultures  will thrive?

Just then, a Palestinian woman who had spoken several times during the class series about her needs for appreciation in her family and also about her suffering at the checkpoint, blurted out, "I want to learn Hebrew. I want to be able to speak directly to Israelis. Then we can make peace."One after the other, the women sitting around her said, "me too. I want to learn Hebrew."

My heart leaped with surprise and delight. After two hours of giving each other empathy in the room, empathy for our hopelessness, for the hardships, the longing for freedom and empowerment, without any pressure, a new solution! A new strategy arises. This is the miracle of listening and connecting, of empowering people, with the support of NVC ,to create solutions.

A friend in Jerusalem, a Rabbi, agreed to travel to Bethlehem weekly to give Hebrew classes. This hasn't worked out yet. We are looking for volunteer Hebrew teachers in Jerusalem and other support to get this going!


  More Writings by Roberta

Nonviolent Communication in Bethlehem and Hebron, by Roberta Wall
Engaging Without Blame
A new friend from the West Bank sent this to me last week. http://www.closedzone.com/ Can I, can you, watch this without falling into blame or shame? The journey of Nonviolent Communication, of Nonviolent Thinking, is where we learn to fully face our life with open eyes, and also without blame or shame. Can I encounter, fully feel, fully take in, what I am hearing, seeing, touching, without falling into blame or shame? What is it that is scary about watching, listening, opening my eyes, without falling into blame or shame? Is it fear of indifference? Fear that if I don’t take sides, if I stop judging who is right and who is wrong, who is victim and who is victimizer, who is good and who is bad, that I will be condoning a world where people’s needs are not valued, where people are not cared for, where some people’s needs are met at great, catastrophic cost to others? Read more

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With deep appreciation, Roberta



Parenting with Nonviolent Communication

"The decision to parent with NVC is grounded in a commitment to nurturing trust and connection within the parent-child relationship.With NVC parents can experience compassion both toward their children and toward themselves, express themselves with power and care, find strategies for daily living  that are more likely to meet everyone's needs and increase trust that everyone's needs matter, even when we do not find strategies to meet everyone's needs.

By transforming parenting, parents can participate in raising a generation of children who have models for living peacefully and compassionately, and who have the skills and consciousness needed to contribute to a peaceful society."

                     Inbal Kashtan, Bay Area NVC

What is our true purpose as parents?

With Nonviolent Communication (NVC), developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, we learn to model and teach younger children that their needs matter and, as children grow, we help them learn how to ask for what they need in ways that are not at the expense of their well being or their connection with others, or at the expense of other people's needs.

The NVC parenting model is Life Enriching and Life Affirming as opposed to the model that is either excessively permissive or based on domination. This means that with NVC we identify and value what is important to everyone in the family, and learn skills, consciousness and ways of expression which reflect this value. This builds trust and communication, and creates the possibility for parenting that reflects the values of compassion and honesty. 


Private Sessions/Coaching/Mediation: contact Roberta  to schedule : info@steps2peace.com
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), developed by Marshall Rosenberg, helps connect us with what is alive in ourselves and in others moment-to-moment, with what we or others could do to make life more wonderful, and with an awareness of what gets in the way of natural giving and receiving. Imagine connecting with the human spirit, in each person, in any situation. Imagine interacting with others in a way that allows everyone's needs to be equally valued. Imagine creating relationships, communities and organizations that are life-serving and life- enriching.

Feedback from Roberta's classes:

"Roberta,
I have to thank you again, not so much for myself, but my sister was transformed by your modeling of NVC. She knew there was something to it, but I guess I wasn't getting across the core idea of allowing yourself time to get in touch with how you feel, and what the need is, before responding to someone's triggering words or behavior. Maybe it's because I'm her brother.
I have to take some credit though, since I've been trying to model NVC for almost 2 years now! She already has started to use it with her kids, ex-, etc, with immediate results.
I'm sure she'll be getting in touch with you to do a group in her town."


"After attending the workshop two weeks ago, my home life with my family has shifted to an easier peaceful place already.
One afternoon workshop with Roberta has already had a positive impact in my home life."

For additional  information about Nonviolent Communication go to www.cnvc.org

Additional NVC in Ulster County

www.PracticingPeace-NewPaltz.com  

Recent Feedback on Roberta's training for a Social services agency:

I  want to give you some feedback on our class. I am enjoying being in your class, and your presence, having been away from your teaching for over a year now.
     I am deeply moved by the greater ease and comfort and gentleness I see you have in presenting the material. The concepts seem to just float out and land on each of us - being received however they are meant to be, by that person, in that moment. Beautiful !  Your teaching has met my need for integration and growth and appreciation and gratitude for this material !  Thank you !  I don't know about other classes you have had, but it seems ours offers some enthusiastic and challenging questions and I felt such joy in listening, and actually feeling in my heart, your responses. Beautiful ! Ed S.
More on NVC and Buddhism:
http://shambhalatimes.org/2009/01/31/buddhism-and-nonviolent-communication/

 


Roberta Wall, certified as a trainer in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) by the Center for Nonviolent Communication, offers trainings inspired by NVC and Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and by the teachings of Mindfulness. Contact her at
info@steps2peace.com


Roberta Wall is a lawyer, mediator, trainer, parent, activist, mindfulness practitioner and coach.  She shares her time between Israel, Palestine and the beautiful Hudson River Valley of Upstate New York and travels the world coaching couples, individuals and organizations and facilitating workshops and retreats inspired by Nonviolent (Compassionate)  Communication (NVC) as developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and  Buddhist teachers Thich Nhat Hanh and the Dalai Lama, and teachers and rabbis and rebbetzins from her root Jewish tradition.

Roberta offers workshops in service of peaceful resolution of conflict, individual and organizational growth, and community and spiritual development.  Her clients and students include individuals,  organizations, businesses, communities and families throughout the world. She offers trainings to public and private institutions, networks  and organizations, government and social services agencies, lawyers, mediators, schools, doctors and social workers.

Mailing Address:
4 Cutten Drive
Saugerties, New York 12477
845 246 5935845 246 5935
In Israel 054 883 6970


 
More articles by Roberta are found at
my email archives
My blog at Times of Israel
My blog at Wordpress

Helping Families, Communities, Organizations and Businesses with Difficult Conversations

Private Sessions:

Roberta is available to help individuals,  families, communities, businesses and organizations have difficult conversations, create infra structures that reflect caring and inclusion of everyone's needs and to guide problem solving, conflict transformation and visioning. She also offers healing sessions inspired by the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh and Marshall Rosenberg.
info@steps2peace.com


Testimonials

Roberta's Facilitation of Public Conversations

What a unique opportunity to learn a new way of talking about such a frought, complex issue.  Generally speaking, when talking with others about the situation in Israel, Palestine, and Gaza, the conversation usually takes one of two turns.  Either it quickly becomes a shouting match, or one person gets on a speaking platform while the other person waits their turn to talk.  Roberta's workshop was nothing like this.  Instead, it was an incredible opportunity for me, as a younger Jewish member of the community, to explore how to be more fully present in actually listening to others when they talk.  What I got out of this was priceless.  For example, I have heard many times the argument that we need to support Israel because "we" (a/k/a World Jewry) will very likely be threatened without its existence.  Hearing that argument with my usual ears, it is so easy to dismiss that sentiment as pure paranoia, having absolutely no relevance for assimilated, American Jews of today.  What I learned in Roberta's workshop was huge around this.  Through the simple process of listening and reflecting back, I connected with a much deeper truth when hearing that same old argument  For the first time, I really listened to the feelings behind what the person was saying. I learned that it is not paranoia.  There is real concern, caring and deep desire to learn from our mistakes that is at the heart of that argument.  I really resonated with that on a deep level.  Not only will I take these new listening skills into my personal life, but it also made me feel a lot more deeply connected with the folks in my local community, and with the issue at hand.  I would welcome this opportunity again, and I think the world --especially Jews, Israelis, Arabs, and Palestinians - need much more of this kind of practice in deep listening.



Roberta's Work in Jewish Community

by Rabbi Jonathan Kligler, Woodstock Jewish Congregation

With clarity and compassion, Roberta Wall brings the fruits of her practice and teaching of Nonviiolent Communication to all manner of groups in the Israeli and Palestinian communities.  I have asked Roberta on several occasions to share with us at the Woodstock Jewish Congregation stories of some of her successes and struggles teaching NVC in Israel/Palestine, and I am always moved by her courage, humility, clarity and skill.  When she speaks with us, Roberta models the principles she teaches, and it becomes clear that she is offering a rare gift: a truly non-judgmental and open-ended forum in which participants, Israelis and Palestinians in this case, can open themselves to the possibility of transforming their relationship with their adversaries, one person and one heart at a time.  I am impressed and encouraged by Roberta’s work.  My mother’s favorite quote is “There is no solution;  seek it lovingly.”  Certainly in the Middle East it appears that there is no “solution”, but Roberta teaches us to nonetheless seek that solution lovingly, and each life she touches is richer for it.

  Roberta's Organizational Work in the Mideast

"Roberta Wall is an extraordinarily talented, passionate and dedicated practitioner and teacher of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and her contribution to the launching of the EcoME Centre has been significant.

The EcoME Centre is a unique model for social and environmental sustainability across divides; it is located adjacent to the Jericho – Almog junction.  In the first month of its formation, Roberta generously offered to run a 2-day NVC training for the EcoME community. This was an extremely necessary and valuable experience for us. One activity that was especially helpful were the Fish Bowel exercises, where the core group, and the wider circle of EcoME - that were experiencing some separation - where given the opportunity to hear each other’s feelings and needs in a safe and supportive way. In addition we learnt to look at the needs of the organization and individuals from the NVC-needs perspective; this contributed to creative solutions and helped us move EcoME forward, distilling strategies and needs.

 More so, two 3-day workshops in NVC and the Building of Inclusive Community were facilitated by Roberta in partnership with Hagit Lifshitz and Hilia Zedaka. In total 120 participants of varying ages (from 15-70 yrs) and backgrounds came to EcoME from across the West Bank and Israel for  trainings which included  NVC workshops, practice groups, social activities, movement, prayers, and experiences in the desert.

 We are extremely happy and grateful for Roberta's work, not only in EcoME but across Palestine and Israel. She is an inspiration to us all, and her capacity to combine such a big compassionate heart with so much skill and wisdom is a special gift. EcoME looks forward to working with Roberta this coming year in co-creating a more sustained NVC training process. We are excited both to be students ourselves, and help others learn this transformative tool, bringing us back the power to choose peace over violence in all levels of our lives. 

                     Ilana Meallem, Co-founder EcoME Centre 
 
Roberta's Work with families

With Couples:

“Roberta created a safe place and supportively guided us to be honest and loving and I am happy to report it sent us down a path of closeness again...”

At retreats and workshops:

"As I watched Roberta roll with the different flows of the retreat, I was inspired to let go of the controls a little bit in my own life.”

"At the end of the workshop I realized I saw for the first time that needs need not be in conflict -that I can get my needs met, not at the expense of others getting their needs met.  Roberta is a great teacher and, full disclosure, she's my mom!"

Private Coaching:

"Roberta's skillful coaching helped me to understand the interplay between the thoughts and feelings arising out of my needs and how the choices I make are always attempts to meet those needs."


What is Nonviolent Communication?

From Robert Gonzales: "Nonviolent Communication (NVC) comprises a set of premises and practices that cultivate a living and embodied consciousness of compassion.

At the heart of NVC are human needs. Needs are seen, rather than a lack or deficiency, as that life force/Life moving in and through us seeking fulfillment, aliveness, and wellbeing.


NVC is a process founded on a language and communication, which guides our attention to that which is most human about us. What emerges when this process is lived, is authentic honesty and empathic listening.

Robert's work with sharing NVC has evolved into a deep work of Living Compassion, which points towards the spiritual dimensions of NVC and includes both deeply, transformative inner work as well as intensely practical, in-the-world aspects of inter-personal relationships.


Workshops include demonstrations of integrating compassionate communication and opportunities to practice what is demonstrated in small groups.



 
Between a stimulus and response there is a space.  In that space is our power to choose our response.  In our response lies our growth and our freedom.  The last of human freedoms is to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances.
            - Viktor Frankl




When we step into the consciousness of needs, we no longer hear,  or speak from,  anger, blame, shame, disconnection.  info@steps2peace.com

Writings by Roberta Wall


Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in the Classroom in East Jerusalem ; witnessing a collective shift

by Roberta Wall
Yesterday I had about an hour and half to present NVC to fifty teachers at St Joseph’s school in East Jerusalem. The anticipated number of participants had grown from thirteen teachers to fifty, including the principal and school director, after I gave a peace class to senior students on Monday. The students are so excited about NVC; they spread the interest to the teachers and administration. (I love the excitement and receptivity of the teachers and administrators to something the students are excited about.) Read More

 

To read more of my articles from the Mideast, please go to my blog

http://robertaindia.wordpress.com/

and my email archives

From Israel:

Background
: After an NVC workshop here, members of this religious community in Israel consulted me as an opportunity to "put NVC into action"  when they were upset to see markings on the wall of a newly constructed community facility. The NVC model and consciousness helped us identify and connect to the needs of the community that weren't met by what happened; and then people opened to exploring the needs that the person was wanting to meet by doing what she did. We guessed her needs may have been  creativity, self expression and inclusion. 

I was deeply moved by the love,openness and willingness of the community members to value her needs. Out of this work together, a new strategy arose- to invite the person to create a beautiful mural in the space.

This is an excerpt from a recent email I received:

 After... Rivka (name changed)  has started to paint the bathroom in beautiful blues and greens and it looks so far very watery. I look forward to seeing it being completed.  I'm so happy that we were able to resolve that situation without anyone being put down, hurt, humiliated, etc.

    ...Actually, last Rosh Chodesh I hardly was able to go, but the one thing I went to, was Hagit's (NVC) workshop. It was very interesting, especially since I had had a very giraffe/coyote exchange with my husband that I shared. Y.( name changed)  had been holding on to all these suits of his father's and they've been in our very small house with it's very limited storage space for over 18 years!! And every year when I was doing Pesach cleaning, I'd beg him to please do something with them, anything, but to get rid of them. Anyway, 18 years later, I said to him, "I assume that you're attached to your father's suits and you don't want to get rid of them, that they are a connection to your father." And of course, he agreed. Two days later, the morning of the rosh chodesh gathering, he announces to me that he's getting rid of the suits and he did!! It was nothing short of a miracle!

Nonviolent (Compassionate) Communication With Parents and Children:

"Have to let you know that when my 18-month old was enjoying the sound of slamming the cabinet door this morning I said, "Sawyer, I really need some peace for a little while. Can you help me with that?" He shut the door, sat down, and started to do a puzzle. Crazy! It is much simpler than trying to be patient for 5 minutes and then losing it!"

Families

We dream that all parents everywhere find relief from struggling with their children and have all the support they need to raise their children in accordance with their values.  We want to build a society where parents cherish and enjoy time with their children, attend to their own needs for rest, rejuvenation and self-care, and have meaningful and supportive relationships with their significant others.  We want to help parents gain the skills to inspire joyful cooperation from their children and teach them the values they hold dear, while forming strong, life-long bonds with them.

 

www.steps2peace.com

 



With organizations and businesses:

 

Roberta coaches a start up company in Mysore, India.  The construction agreement was stalled until the company representatives used their NVC consciousness and skills to negotiate and connect with the builder. See the News! Page for the video of the celebration!

 

 


                                  


I will post Your NVC Story Here- Hundreds of people have been practicing NVC in the Hudson Valley, Irael, the WEst Bank---Let's share our successes and insights HERE with each other!!


Send your story to info@steps2peace.com

From a Saugerties NVCer:

 

 

 

 

An ongoing romantic relationship has been helped tremendously by my understanding and practice of Nonviolent Communication.  What began as a friendship progressed to a more romantic involvement, then it seemed to revert back to friendship, but then it re-reverted to a more serious yet lighter (if those two attributes can co-exist) romantic relationship.  While this back and forth may seem like a recipe for turmoil, it hasn't been that way, and I think the difference has been my understanding of her needs and feelings as well as my own.

I have been able to hear whatever she's said about our involvement with each other as an expression of her own needs.  While I was sad at times because I wanted something other than what was, my being clear about what she needed allowed me to simply enjoy what was because I recognized just how many of my needs were being met by the quality of the time we were spending together.  The level of communication between us has been deep, and this has been so gratifying and satisfying.  My NVC experience has met my need for understanding and communication and connection.  I'm excited about this, too!

 


 

 

From Mary Oliver's latest volume, Red Bird, "Invitation": 

Oh do you have time
to linger
for just a little while
out of your busy

and very important day
for the goldfinches
that have gathered
in a field of thistles

for a musical battle,
to see who can sing
the highest note,
or the lowest,

or the most expressive of mirth,
or the most tender?
Their strong blunt beaks
drink the air

as they strive
melodiously
not for your sake
and not for mine

and not for the sake of winning
but for sheer delight and gratitude–
believe us, they say,
it is a serious thing

just to be alive
on this fresh morning
in this broken world.
I beg of you,

do not walk by
without pausing
to attend to this
rather ridiculous performance.

It could mean something.
It could mean everything.
It could be what Rilke meant, when he wrote:
You must change your life

Late, rainy August.  If you are like me, it’s really hard to get motivated to do anything with all this rain. It seems like a metaphor for life- flooded with feelings, stresses, tasks, and I get triggered. I tell myself it’s the rain, the external, and, after a bit of searching, I see it’s the inner weather report that is at the root and that I can direct my inquiry and energy to.   Every time. Come deepen our Nonviolent Communication Self Empathy practice- let's look at, and embrace, and find the wisdom of, our internal images and self judgments that are at the root of why we get triggered. Join us in this exploration this September.

 

 

 

 

 

 August:  I've just returned from an NVC Family Camp on Vashon Island, Washington, where a group of NVC staff and trainers celebrated me passing a milestone on my path to joining the family of CNVC trainers. Please visit this blog again soon to hear more about this experience from me. Right now, I want to express my deepest gratitude for all of you who have offered support, encouragement and commitment to me as I walk the path of bringing Nonviolence and Awareness into our families, communities and world.

July:  This blog entry ends with a new poem from Mary Oliver (scroll down) that unfolds the gift of taking your time. Watching the first mesclun seedlings bravely unfurl from the soil this morning, the ducks linger lazily on the creek- everywhere the world is teaching us to "take your time." And what about in our relationships? In the most precious jewel of intimate and satisfying connection with another human being- what stops us from taking our time to connect?  From lingering with the tender shoots of intimacy when our loved ones reveal what is in their hearts- their vulnerability that comes with fear, anger, frustration, love. Sometimes it’s hard to hear the beauty and vulnerability in the message.  Whether we step into NVC for business mediation, a conflict with a loved one, self inquiry, or deepening an important relationship, NVC is our ally in learning to take our time to let the tender shoot of connection unfurl.
April '09

 I’ve been thinking a lot this month about hard –to- hear messages and difficult- to -deliver messages. A friend was telling me the other day about a friend of hers who said to her, “when you do this, you make me feel resentful.”  And then I received an email two days ago, that ended with, “ We have been more than accommodating of your requests to date but your behavior is now causing our family a great deal of stress.”

       Do you, like me, feel a tightening in your belly just hearing these messages?  I know I am triggered as soon as I feel that tightening, and in this triggered state, I am only able to hear one thing - someone blaming another person for the way they feel, holding the other person responsible for how they feel. I’ve lost my mindfulness, my NVC, my aspirations to hear and listen to others with an open heart and compassion.  

       My exploration of NVC these days is very focused on understanding what happens that sends me to this triggered place? How can I hear a difficult message, and get  to the place where I only hear someone saying “please” to me- where I can hear their “please” as a gift to me- the gift of letting me know what is important to them, alive in them, what I could do to make life more wonderful for them. How do I get there from the triggered place, and how can I change my habitual responses so that I go there instead of to the habitually triggered places?

  I’d love to hear from you how you are working with these same issues, and whether this speaks to what is important to you in your communication and transformation?

Passover and Nonviolent Communication

   Mitzrayim is the word in the Torah for the triggered place- where you go, what happens, when you hear something or see something or think something that sends you into a tight closed place- in ancient Hebrew texts, that place is Mitzrayim- Egypt. Passover is the story and map for how we as individuals and as a people can transform the stuck places inside of us and around us.   Pharoah- the inner or outer Pharoah- is stuck, identified with what we call in NVC a life ailenated place-  a place where we have stoped up the flow of life, so can't  see the other person's aliveness and can't  access the place inside ourself where that flow can bring us into connection.

  " Liberating your Dream "is an NVC workshop where we work individually, in small groups, and then in the group as a whole, to identify our dream of freedom for ourself, then meet (give empathy to) the inner voices that hold us back from stepping into freedom. And then we put ourselves into connection with the energy of our dream- what we want to do or say, but have been held back by fear or other obstacles.